I did a personality test the other day. The link to the test is here.
My results showed that I was an ISTJ personality type – Introverted, Sensing, Thinking, Judging
- Honor their commitments
- Take their relationship roles very seriously
- Usually able to communicate what’s on their minds with precision
- Good listeners
- Extremely good (albeit conservative) with money
- Able to take constructive criticism well
- Able to tolerate conflict situations without emotional upheaval
- Able to dole out punishment or criticism when called for
- Tendency to believe that they’re always right
- Tendency to get involved in “win-lose” conversations
- Not naturally in-tune with what others are feeling
- Their value for structure may seem rigid to others
- Not likely to give enough praise or affirmation to their loved ones
ISTJs as Lovers
|“To love means to open ourselves to the negative as well as the positive – to grief, sorrow, and disappointment as well as to joy, fulfillment, and an intensity of consciousness we did not know was possible before.” — Rollo May|
ISTJs are committed, loyal partners, who will put forth tremendous amounts of effort into making their relationships work. Once they have made a commitment to a relationship, they will stick with it until the end. They gladly accept their duty towards fulfilling their role in the relationship. ISTJs are generally willing and able to do anything which they have defined as a goal. So, if maintaining a good relationship is important to the ISTJ, they are likely to have a good relationship. If they have not added this goal to their internal “list” of duties, they are likely to approach the relationship in their “natural” state, which is extremely practical, traditional, and structured.
Sexually, the ISTJ is likely to approach intimacy from a physical perspective, rather than as a means of expressing love and affection. They usually have a problem expressing their deepest feelings, even though they may be very strongly felt. They will expect sex on a relatively scheduled basis, and are likely to honor traditions regarding gender role-playing. Male ISTJs will assert their perspective on their partners, while female ISTJs will tend to follow along with what their male counterparts want (although they will be uncomfortable with anything extremely out of the traditional norm).
I guess I can sort of agree with the traditional gender roles as a sexual submissive but really uncomfortable with anything outside of the traditional norm????
I spend a lot of time daydreaming. My fantasies become really elaborate and I can pop in and out of them at will. Sometimes when I’ve been busy and haven’t had time to daydream I find myself missing the people I’ve created in my fantasies and I stop what I’m doing in order to drop in and spend time with them. I’d rather daydream than watch TV. I enjoy reading but often that results in my mind developing the story further so I put the book down and continue the new story in my head where I’m a central character in the action. I don’t think it’s gotten so bad that it stops me living my life but sometimes I would rather be daydreaming than anything else. People in my life notice me gesturing occasionally usually when I’m having a particularly heated discussion with one of my characters. Luckily because I spend time writing short stories etc. I can get away with telling them that I’m working out a plot issue in my head rather than explaining about my secret life.
I do worry about it occasionally, whether it will get worse over time and have even searched on the internet to see if anyone else ever experiences this. I came across the term maladaptive daydreaming there but I’m not sure my experiences are as extensive as most of the people I’ve read about there. It did become worse after my Mum was diagnosed with Leukaemia and I quit work to take care of her. Maybe having more time on my hands during the day and spending less time with friends etc caused me to create my elaborate second life.
I love this clip where she pours wine down her leg for Quentin to drink from her foot.
So apt and beautiful